At about 10 AM on Saturday morning I found out my MOH's husband was deploying. We knew he would deploy sometime in September or October but that's a pretty wide berth for something so, so major. Since we've moved to CT and R moved to NY, we're a lot closer geographically than if either of us had stayed in KY or moved, well, anywhere else that had been a possibility. For once, being unemployed (for 2 months now) played to my advantage and I was there at her house by 6 PM. I left at 12:40 after going to the grocery for A and stopping by his work to say bye. It was our first night being away from each other since being married, so I was a little upset even though it could have been far worse and it was an excellent reason.
It's not a bad drive, actually. And it's UNREAL gorgeous, especially with all the leaves changing right now. I had never seen a wind turbine up as close as I got to on this trip- they are HUGE!!! And I had never seen an Amish buggy on a road so knock that one off the list too. Lots of barns, silos, cows... idyllic and there was little to no traffic. I took most of these pictures while driving. Literally. It was a solo trip so I had a camera in one hand and the steering wheel in the other. There was very little to no traffic, but it was definitely not something I would recommend doing.
Once I got there, we really just spent time together. Explored the base and a cute little town nearby. Hung out with the dog and just talked. Had Indian for dinner one night. Watched a lot of Man v. Food, The Holiday, and New York, I Love You (which was TERRIBLE). Talked a lot about army stuff, what he would be doing, how long he'd be gone, what they did to prepare, what was after. The worst part, by far because I've seen R tear up exactly once since I met her so she definitely didn't cry while I was there, was leaving. I had packed enough to stay til Monday, but I told her if she needed me to stay longer I would I would have, but at the same time I didn't want to be an imposition, and her sister/sister-in-law are coming this weekend with a bunch of nieces and nephews so I figured she needed at least some quiet.
It was gut-wrenching and I cried much of the way home. I'm not really sure what to do, honestly. She's one of my best friends, A performed her wedding, she was my maid of honor, we adore her husband (and her dog), she might be the closest thing to a sister that I have, and I'm completely and totally helpless in this situation. And it is, frankly, terrifying. Terrifying in so many ways and the only think I can do is go visit, have her come visit us, let her know that we're here no matter what and send stuff to her husband.
* What do you actively do in this kind of situation?
* What creative things can I send to M while he's deployed?
* What can I do for R while she waits?
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